You Don't Pay Us Until You've Met Her
Every other private matchmaker for men takes five figures before he's sourced a single woman. We put a card on file and charge it after you've met her.
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The situation
Nobody is coming to introduce you
The people who used to do it are married and have stopped. The office is off the table. Your friends picked a side in somebody's divorce, or they just don't know anyone anymore. So there's an app open for twenty minutes before bed, and that arrangement has never once concluded on its own.
It costs more every year, and the cost isn't money. Access at fifty is not access at thirty-five. The circle shrinks and the people in it stay the same people.
What I'm looking for on your behalf is narrower than most men expect. A woman who's settled in her own life and isn't looking to be rescued from it. She has something of her own she takes seriously. And she'd be a good judge of you, which matters more than it sounds like it does, because you have to respect her judgment back.
That's the standard. It's the reason a real search takes as long as it does, and it's the reason I only run a few at a time.
The structure
Where your money sits
You sign, you send the wire, and then you spend ninety days finding out whether the firm you paid is running a search for you or matching you against inventory it already had.
We moved the money to the other end. A card goes on file at signing with written authorization. It is not charged until the first introduction has actually happened.
The risk
If she doesn't show, you aren't charged
She cancels, or she reschedules and it falls through. That isn't a delivered introduction. It doesn't bill and it doesn't count against your total. We present someone else within seven days and your term extends day for day.
She came to the firm on her own, sat for a verification interview before she was ever on our list, and isn't compensated for being there. Nothing of value moves from this firm to any woman you meet through it. So when she cancels, that's ours to fix.
"We're on both sides of the introduction. She came to us too."
A firm carrying a hundred clients cannot bill on delivery. It doesn't know when delivery happened, and it isn't in the room afterward. We sourced her, we verified her, we briefed her. That is the only reason we know precisely when an introduction has been delivered, and the only reason we can go back to her afterward and get an honest answer instead of a polite one.
The mechanism
What you're actually buying
Not the introductions. Anyone in this business can produce introductions.
Most men in your position have never had one honest piece of information about how they come across. Friends being kind, women being polite, and no way to tell the difference.
We brief both sides before you meet. Afterward I go back to her myself, and you hear what came back in writing, including the parts people don't say to your face. Then the brief for the next one changes because of it.
By the fourth introduction we know things about how you land that you don't, and the search is sharper for it.
The proof
What the read actually looks like
This is the part no other firm can show you, because no other firm has it.
After every introduction I go back to her. What comes back gets written up and sent to you. Not a summary of the evening. What she actually thought, put into words you can use, with anything that would identify her taken out.
Here is the shape of one. The content belongs to you and to her, so it isn't on this page.
Every read is written from the same fixed set of questions, which is what makes the sixth one comparable to the first. That comparison is the thing you're actually buying.
The engagement
What it covers
Engagements are five figures. Where yours lands depends on the timeline you want and how much search the brief takes. You get the figure in writing before you sign anything.
- A search run for your case, not a query against a list that already existed
- A set number of introductions inside a set term, both named in your engagement
- The briefing on both sides, so nobody walks in cold
- The read after each one, in writing
- The next brief built on the last read, for the length of the term
- One business day on anything you send us
Before any of it
What twenty minutes gets you
Nobody gets a search run for him on the strength of a form. There's a private conversation first. You talk, I listen.
The candidacy review
One page, in writing:
- Where a serious search would start in your case
- What it would realistically take
- What it would cost
- Whether you're a fit for the firm
It says so plainly. Sometimes it says no. The page is yours whether or not you engage the firm, and we take a small number of men at a time.
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The money terms, in full
Everything that governs the money, on the page, before you speak to anyone.
| What you sign | A Founding engagement. A set number of vetted introductions inside a set term, both named in the document |
|---|---|
| What the card does at signing | Goes on file with written authorization. It is not charged |
| When you're charged | After your first introduction has occurred: both parties opted in, and the two of you sat down |
| What the charge is | The engagement, not a deposit and not a per-introduction fee. Your schedule is in the document you signed |
| When the search starts | Three business days after signing, when your cancellation window closes |
| If you cancel in those three days | Nothing has happened and nothing is owed |
| If she cancels or doesn't show | Not a delivered introduction. Not charged. Doesn't count against your total. Replacement within seven days, term extends day for day |
| If you cancel or don't show | That one counts |
| If you decline her before you meet | Not a delivered introduction. Not charged, doesn't count against your total, and the term does not extend |
| If we don't deliver them in the term | We keep working at no charge until we do |
| What isn't promised | A relationship |
What we won't promise
Anyone who guarantees that is lying to you.
Ask any firm, including this one, whether they can guarantee you'll meet the person you marry. What can be promised is the work. Your engagement names a number of introductions and a term. If we don't deliver them inside it, we keep working at no charge until we do.
Questions
Asked before signing
When does a private matchmaker charge you?
What happens if she cancels the first introduction?
What if I don't want to meet the woman you present?
Can I cancel after I sign?
How much does a private matchmaker for men cost?
Are the women paid to meet me?
Do you work with men outside your markets?
Do you guarantee I will find a relationship?
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P.S. If you're not approved for our free introduction offer, you'll still walk away with a personalized summary that will help you find your person...and whether or not you engage the firm. If you're comparing firms, take our offer with you and ask the others if they can match it with something better. If their answers beat ours, hire them.